Relationships... Why Try So Hard?

When someone is important to us we want to cater to them, please them, make them like us. Nothing wrong about that. But why does it sometimes feel like it’s pointless? Why does it sometimes feel like you’re wasting your efforts? Why is it so exhausting?

We are not supposed to give to receive, they say. However, why is it that when we don’t receive what we give we feel almost scammed? It’s very painful to be let down by the reaction (or lack thereof) of someone you love to something nice that you did for them or to an effort you are making to accommodate them.

"We can only do so much & try so hard to keep love alive. After being let down so many times, you'll eventually just let go."  - Unknown

That moment when it hits you that you may in fact be trying to hard it’s not very easy to deal with.

It’s good to take a step back when this happens. Stop trying. Stop making the effort. Cease and desist. Let them be who they want to be to you. Let them give you what they want to give you. Watch and observe their behavior towards you. In most cases they will know something is wrong and if they truly love you, they will realize it’s not fair and that you need more retribution (or whatever it is).

If this isn’t the case though, maybe it’s best to walk away. Why waste time and effort with a partner that is not considerate of your feelings and who does not reciprocate what you do for them? I’m not even sure where I’m trying to go with this. I guess the point is that when you feel that you’re trying too hard, most likely you are. It’s not a good place to be so just STOP!